Slow Down When Changing Lanes: Tools for New Choices Recently, I’ve offered ideas and tools to help you to know when and how you’re defaulting into self-protective modes of thinking and behaving and why it can be a problem. Once you have awareness and acceptance, you can adopt new practices for making a change that is sustainable and move toward the life you desire. “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein Defaults are

Stop "Shoulding" on Yourself & Others What happens when things do not go according to your plan? You set expectations. Sometimes they are explicit but often, they are unspoken. When reality doesn't align, you may beat yourself and others up with "I should" and "you shouldn’t have.” I refer to this as “shoulding.” Not only is it a waste of energy, but it is also flawed thinking that can hold you hostage. We have been conditioned to believe in the concept of "should.” But what

Know Thyself First When a person is ready to feel more satisfied, less exhausted, and in more control, it is usually an indicator that clarity is needed to design the right path of action and change. Most of us don’t love change, even when we want it. This is why people stay in the same stagnant job or relationship for years, when on the inside, they want desperately to live a better and more fulfilling life. If this is you, you are not alone. With the right structured proces

In their book, Play to Win!, Revised Edition: Choosing Growth Over Fear in Work and Life, Larry and Hersch Wilson offer a simple formula...

Redefine Resilience & Stop-Over Functioning Co-authored by Guest Contributor Michele Calderigi and Christine Grimm. A boss once complimented me by saying, "Michele, you can do anything with nothing." I knew being resourceful and plowing down any obstacle would please him, so I accepted every challenge, no matter how many extra hours and extra effort, being the taskmaster to my employees and peers. I didn't feel I could ask for help because I was worried that I would look weak