Martha Beck is credited with coining the quote, “How you do anything is how you do everything.” This quotation has been widely used in coaching programs, training seminars, motivational talks, and many books. It would suggest that how you manage most situations, challenges, or other experiences in your life is probably a good indication of how you handle almost all the occurrences in your life.
That said, a good way to break this down is to realize that all day, every day, we are doing things. [Tasks, action items, stuff.] The small things we do add up to the big things; eventually, they create impact and add up to results. Consider an intentional approach to the impact and results you want versus what might unintentionally “happen” without you thinking about it.
It’s sad but also surprising to me how many people are lost, just meandering through their lives. They are taken aback when their career or life doesn’t turn out in a way that feels right and then faced with the fact that they created this for themselves by being unfocused and unintentional.
So, let’s not do that!
You can get more of what you desire by starting with the end result in mind. This might sound cliché, but it's true. If you focus on the impact and results you want, you can shape your days to guarantee that your “little things” build to the big life finale you dream about.
Here are some suggestions for focusing your actions so that you benefit from all of your efforts:
1. Meaningful Connections Think of a time you were complimented, comforted, or helped by someone in your life. Now, think about the impact that had on your day. Something as small as lending a hand or smiling to a stranger has the power to turn a bad day into a good one. Consider how you might shift your interactions with others to help each person have a better day. Smile. Ask how they are. Offer an extra 5 minutes to help them solve a problem that has nothing to do with you.
2. Feel the Way You Want to Feel Not only do small, meaningful actions improve the lives of those around you, but they also make you feel good. When we do something nice for someone, it releases endorphins in our brains that make us feel happy. Assuming you want to feel good, happy, confident, and productive, commit to yourself in these ways daily. Life isn’t perfect or easy, so you may have to commit and adjust moment by moment, but the goal here is for you to tether yourself with intention to the feelings you want so you can come back to these feelings more often.
3. Make Mental Health a Priority Studies have shown that performing acts of kindness and committing to personal happiness will increase your sense of well-being and improve your overall mental health. Surround yourself with tools, practices, and people who are in full support of your commitment to being happy and healthy. Stop allowing toxic people and drama to steal your happiness away because you are not actively protecting your own time, energy, and sanity.
4. Be a Role Model Do you know someone who inspires you? Most likely, this person inspires you through their actions. This doesn't mean that you have to do something big to inspire, though. Accept that your interactions can and will inspire people. Accept that your story, the ups and downs, and your willingness to share your learnings and vulnerabilities with other people are highly valuable and could change someone’s life. Your story of struggle and resilience could be the medicine someone else needs. This supports a deeper connection and openness than you might be used to.
Ultimately, if you take time to be mindful while completing activities throughout your day, you will benefit from this intentional approach. Each small task matters. Each small action or activity adds up to something bigger. Each small move is a reflection of you. Pause to think about your actions and words: this will have a lasting effect in terms of how you experience life and how you form relationships with others. Practicing often, can lead to significant accomplishments, purposeful action, and profound realizations.
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